Homework Let’s Learn the Formula Of Success

10. 15 Essential Qualities You Must Have to Succeed

The formula for success is at the same time specific and general. That is, the qualities necessary for achieving it may be acceptable for one nation, but not for another. In Azerbaijan, for example (and in the East in general), those who rely on mental values and national principles achieve success. In this case, great importance is given to a strong, full-fledged family, where exemplary education, attachment to one's national roots, and religious affiliation predominate. Only these factors allow achieving success.

Based on my personal experience and observations, I can put forward the following parameters:

Getting an education in an exemplary family with intelligent, progressive-minded parents who are considered role models in society is, in my opinion, the most necessary condition and incentive for life. At the next stage, an important role is given to the education received in kindergarten and high school, or from mentors. The knowledge received from teachers and leaders contribute to the formation of a full-fledged personality with a strong character, which is the main criterion in moving towards the intended goal.

A person eventually becomes a man with exemplary manners and education. This type of people, in turn, undertakes to instill the culture of good manners, and contribute to the upbringing and formation of the future generation.

I will give you one simple example. Being well-mannered does not mean spilling food on the tablecloth. Being well-mannered means to see a person next to you in a similar situation, but pretend that you didn’t notice so as not to put him in an awkward position.

Another important condition for young people striving for a goal is a strong healthy family. They should know how to concede in their own house. Families like this has faith and trust in relations between members, they are hassle-free, far from troubles and all kinds of strife. Such a family can mobilize you to direct all your potential to the intended goal and serve as an incentive.

Relations between spouses are also of great importance in this matter. Nothing can be more beautiful than the life of a married couple, whose dreams and aspirations coincide. The basis of a strong family lies in the ability of the head of the family to conduct a thoughtful policy (family is often called a small state). Creating a family, young people must make the right choice. A married couple should be consistent with each other. People say: try to find a wife of the same height. If she is taller than you, you may end up under her heel.

Each individual must be attached to his national roots and respect his religion. Traditions, rules of behavior, proverbs, sayings and other folklore patterns, games and rituals that have survived for thousands of years, combined, form the national character of a person.

Only a person attached to national roots feels at ease. A detached person will never feel himself comfortable.

He who does not have national roots and religion is deprived of a fulcrum. Cosmopolitan or not, he should preserve his national character. Atheist or not, he should respect the religious beliefs of his people.

Obtaining primary education is, of course, necessary, but I also consider higher education a very important factor in achieving success. You can be educated in life without getting an education. However, higher education gives not only awareness, but also a way of assimilating knowledge, an instruction in the use of knowledge. The academic environment is an important factor in shaping a person's worldview.

There’s nothing more important in life than health. «Healthy mind in a healthy body». This expression is familiar to everyone.

If a person is weak or sick, he will naturally encounter obstacles on his way to the goal. First, heal yourself, take care of your physical condition, and then think about success.

It seems to me that a person should visit a doctor not in order to recover, but in order not to get sick. Healthy eating, physical activity, giving up bad habits, harmony with nature – all this constitutes a healthy lifestyle. These conditions should be a characteristic feature of a person striving for a goal.

Who surrounds you, who are your friends and acquaintances, whom your team consists of – all these points are very important and are the main conditions for a person who wants to succeed. What’s interesting, the conditions for becoming a leader in all concepts depend not only on your skills and authoritarianism, but also on support from your followers, environment, subordinates, on their ability to work and on how loyal you are.

The concept of «having a healthy environment» is very broad. Just like you change your apartment, car or your wardrobe from time to time, it’s very important to change your environment at the right time.

Reading, of course, plays an indispensable role in improving a person, developing his speech and skills, making him knowledgeable, sociable and educated. A book is a teacher of life. You can learn from it, drawing all the good things it offers.

Now at the time of immense development of information and communication technologies, it’s impossible to find a person who will deny the need for a large amount of information. Knowledge and information are two wings, like two hands, necessary for a modern person to achieve a goal.

It is worth considering the dual nature of reading. Obtaining general information to improve his knowledge of world and nature sciences, as well as building relationships between people, a person striving for the goal also receives specific knowledge necessary for chosen profession, which accelerates his path to success.

Do you know in which cases a person building a career is more successful? When his favorite profession coincides with his chosen profession. A person can never succeed if he is busy with an unloved affair. This is absurd, emptiness and disappointment. As if a young man loves one girl, but marries another.

Dear young people, when choosing a profession, you must listen to your inner voice. Don’t let the insistence of parents or someone else’s influence lead you astray. Remember: only doing your favorite work you can build a successful career.

Professionalism and amateurism are two polar poles. According to the brilliant Azerbaijani poet Nizami Ganjavi, «it’s better to be a perfect saddle-maker than a useless hatter». Being a professional in saddle-making is more profitable than being an amateur hatter.

Being a professional means being self-confident and strong, being an expert in your field. It means to have advanced experience, to obtain relevant education, to enjoy the work you are doing.

Amateurism is self-doubt, stress and tension. Amateurs are mostly those who mastered a profession but work in a completely different sphere, or those who didn’t have a chance to receive proper knowledge and experience. Random people, of course, cannot succeed in what they do. This is impossible. The path to success in any case lies through professionalism. It’s an axiom.

A person who wants to succeed must be able to control his ego and direct it in the right direction. You went on a path leading to success, but you are lazy? Try to discard laziness. You can’t make a decision? Try to change yourself. You are shy? Get rid of this quality. You are a coward? Find courage in yourself.

Human character is like a train consisting of different cars (properties). If one of the cars slows you down in this marathon and makes it difficult for you to move forward, you must get rid of it. Otherwise, you may not reach your destination.

Be purposeful

If you want to achieve your goal, you must fight and mustn’t lose heart due to minor difficulties and failures. Nothing comes easy in life. The path to success is full of thorns. It can be overcome only by experiencing sorrows. No obstacles or difficulties in your path should confuse you. Victory can only be achieved through determination designed for the final result.

Optimism is the ability to pay attention only to good things in life, a worldview associated with confidence in luck and success, a bright future and a cheerful mood. Optimism (from Latin optimus – «best») as a view of life claims that the world is beautiful, that there is a way out of any difficult situation, that everything will be fine. Think for yourself what benefits optimism brings to a person on his path to success. Now let's see what the antonym of this word means, that is, pessimism. How can this view of life bring you luck if it expresses uncertainty and represents everything in black colors?

The confrontation between an optimist and a pessimist can be expressed by a well-known example of half a glass of water. According to the optimist, the glass is always half full. According to the pessimist, the glass is half empty. If we quote the words of the German philosopher Gottfried Leibniz, «We live in the best of the worlds,» it follows that optimism as a philosophical doctrine is useful not only for success, but for human life in general. The results of scientific research prove that optimism is extremely beneficial for human health, namely:

– prevents the emergence of helplessness and hopelessness, helps to increase immunity;

– directs you to a healthy lifestyle, encourages you to visit a doctor if something bothers you;

– helps to build relations with friends and companions, contributing to the formation of social support in people, which is one of the important conditions for protecting health.

Dear readers, be optimistic in life, consider your defeats as a temporary phenomenon, remember that everything goes away, take accidents as a chance and, on the contrary, take pleasant things as regular. You will overcome your path to luck as long as you are optimistic.

One of the aspects in achieving the goal, in my opinion, is the ability to plan an adjusted life. I think when you lead a spontaneous life, designed more for chance than for inevitability, or when everything is derailed, like we say, «come what may,» there is no point in waiting for luck.

Plan your life in the form of a local (everyday) and global (stage you are aiming at) steps, and then just follow the line. It is advisable that the time of waking up, eating, working hours, as well as leisure time, be strictly on schedule. If you are studying, it is advisable to find out for yourself in which area you will work and what level you are aiming at. If you work, it is useful to know which mark you want to leave in this life and which people you want to have on the same level. In a planned life, you will rarely face accidents, artificially created obstacles or lowered barriers. Leading a spontaneous, chaotic life, one has to stumble upon constant surprises and inexplicable situations.

On your way to luck, friends, proceed according to your plan.

Having multiple plans is another important factor on the path to success. If you look into the biography of successful leaders, you can clearly trace plans A, B or even C in their activities. Acting according to one plan means to suspend the struggle at the first defeat. Side plans will help you continue the struggle and give an additional chance to win no matter what.

At the very end, let’s talk about self-confidence, the most important parameter in achieving a goal. Self-confidence is the starting point in all major acquisitions. If a person does not have this property, there is nothing to say about luck. Self-confidence is the belief that you can achieve everything, faith when you find yourself in a difficult situation and encounter a very difficult case.

How to believe in yourself? It seems to be a common question, but at the same time it points to situations with a difficult solution.

– First of all, dear reader, take advantage of auto-training like «there is nothing incomprehensible, I can do everything», «I just need a little time, in the end I will laugh.» This will help get rid of the illusion of insolubility on the path to success. It happens that a person artificially overrates some minor flaws and brings them to the level of insoluble problems. As a result, he panics and goes astray, which is totally unacceptable.

One of the destructive factors of self-confidence is to take a loser as an example. You may panic thinking that if the person who tried earlier didn’t succeed, then it wouldn’t work for me either. Follow the postulate «every situation is unique, all people are different», and don’t try to take an example from someone else. Well, if you still decide to follow someone’s example, then follow the example of a successful person.

– The next way to strengthen your confidence is to remember past victories and look back at your luck. This will give you an additional incentive and add strength.

– The next detail of building self-confidence is to stay in reality and not to hover in the clouds. In what sense? Sometimes we draw plans and build illusions about doing things that exceed our capabilities. Some of us can become millionaires, Olympic champions or presidents, but for many people this is completely impossible. There are billions of people in the world, and only the elite are given to overcome the peaks. Please note: when a person raves about the idea of being elected, having no prerequisites, in the end he condemns himself to failure, and his self-confidence is undermined. Therefore, don’t try to bite more than you can chew. Try to experience confidence on real plans.

– An important factor in strengthening a sense of self-confidence is to have a personal position, a reasonable ordering of priorities, as well as to avoid stressful situations and depression. I intend to give detailed information about these factors in other chapters of my book.

So, in this chapter we talked about 15 basic qualities necessary for success. I think it will not be difficult for you to remember them.

11. Factor of Heredity in Becoming a «Lucky» One

We are the descendants of the Maharramovs. My great-grandfather was called Sattar, my grandfather was Alibal, and my father was called Sattar. My name is Alibala, and my son is Sattar. I will also call my grandson Alibal. I am one of those who believe in the energy of names. It seems to me that every person in a family tree continues the fate of his predecessors.

Remember a relay race in athletics competitions. Passing the wand from hand to hand, team members are approaching the finish line. The existence of a pedigree is also possible only by transferring the genetic code from birth to the very end.

Fr centuries our family tree consisted of scientists and doctors, and all of us had fairly high success rates.

I want to talk about my paternal grandfather who has three sons, each of whom was a Doctor of Science. About Alibal Maharramov. Over his 65 years of life, he received the glorious title of «People’s elder», taught many people medicine, as well as the laws of life, the depth of human relations, and was considered a symbol of a successful person worthy to be emulated, including on my part.

My grandfather was a maximalist. No matter what he did, he achieved the perfect result. He was a dentist and was considered a well-known specialist in our district; patients came from everywhere. Besides the fact that he treated his patients, he taught young people the secrets of healing, educating his followers.

Grandfather was a famous public figure. In addition to the authority of the elder, he treasured his status as well. Each newly appointed head of the district considered his first duty to meet my grandfather and receive approval from him. It has become a sort of tradition. Even in the era of intense communism, when people were oppressed for their religious views, the delegation that arrived in Soviet Azerbaijan from Saudi Arabia, the cradle of the holy monuments of Islam, sent the republic leaders to Guba to meet my grandpa.

My grandfather’s surrounding was composed of academics, public and political figures and noble cultural figures. The famous Azerbaijani and Soviet poet of those years, Samed Vurgun, was also a friend of my grandfather. Each time the poet came to meet with my grandfather, the entire population of Guba came to look at them.

Grandfather was an amazing conversationalist, knew a lot of sayings, parables and legends. Everyone wanted to have a conversation with him and each time they learned something new.

This man had endless energy. He always tried to create something and leave a good mark everywhere after himself. He planted a garden with all kinds of flowers from different parts of the world. People came, one by one, to take a look at his asters, gladiolus, chrysanthemums, gloriosas, callas, irises, crocuses, lavender, lilies, lotuses, magnolias, orchids for the first time in their lives.

Grandfather also created a real zoo, which was inhabited by a gazelle, a falcon, a peacock and different types of partridges.

Pupils often took biology and zoology classes in our zoo corner.

My grandfather died in 1981, when I was five years old. I saw him a little, and my memories of him are indistinct, but later my grandmother told me a lot about him. On every street and in every corner of our district, the people I met remembered him with reverence, and expressed their respect.

I also want to mention Haji Babazade, my maternal grandfather. My mom’s family consisted of the native people of Baku, and was also very noble, coming from the Halvachis, an ancient clan of Icheri Sheher (Inner City, or Fortress). One of the most famous clan members was Meshedi Azizbekov, a famous figure in the Bolshevik revolution, who never reconciled with the dictatorship of the Communists, an ardent enemy of imperialism, a consistent supporter of self-determination in people’s destiny. He was a cousin of mom’s father.

Much should be learned from my mom’s father. Doctor of Sciences, teacher, polyglot, playwright, he was also the first director of the Mingachevir hydroelectric station. His credo in life, like that of my other grandfather, was «perseverance and more perseverance.»

There is a famous street in Baku called Zevin Street (now Aziz Aliyev street). Now it’s full of brand boutiques, but before there were grocers of my mom’s father's. When my grandfather was eight years old, his father passed away. So that the shops continued to trade, his mother put him behind the counter. However, he was eager to get an education, so he refused to trade. Despite this, he was not allowed to study.

At that time, there were Russian-Tatar elementary schools, and in order for the child to study at school, one of the parents had to write an application. Do you know what little Haji did to achieve his dream in such a situation? Sitting at the grocery counter and watching passers-by along Zevin Street, he noticed an intelligent-looking man. He ran out, called him and asked him to write an application on behalf of his father to enroll him in school. As a result, my mom’s father began to study and in a very short time became an exemplary student. His mother retreated, realizing that she could not impede the desire of her son.

I gave you an example from my family to emphasize the importance of heredity in the development of a successful person. In the end, as an evidence in this broad topic, I want to state a few facts.

Never think that all Brazilians are good football players, all Jews are financial oligarchs, all Italians are tenors, all Germans are engineers, all French are cooks and fashion designers, all Swiss are watchmakers, all Russians are gunsmiths, all Turks are builders, because it's senseless. Let’s remember the so-called crime lords – immigrants from Georgia, or Chechens – professional soldiers.

All this is proof that for thousands of years the knowledge and skills absorbed in the memory of the people have been passed down from generation to generation under the name of «tradition».

These are traditions in their general meaning. There are also personal traditions. There are many traditions exemplified by one particular kind: the Rothschild dynasty (bankers and financiers from Germany), the Nehru generation (politicians from India), the Rockefeller clan (oil industrialists from America), the Pritzker dynasty (hotel businessmen from America), etc.

In Azerbaijan, for example, we have the Mamedyarov family. One of its members, Shakhriyar Mamedyarov, is a grandmaster, the only 2-time world champion among chess players under 20. He is the 13th chess player in the world exceeding the 2800 Elo-point rating. According to the FIDE rating, Shakhriyar is one of the three strongest chess players in the world. His older sister Zeynab is an international grandmaster, and his younger sister Turkyan is also an international grandmaster. Both sisters are also winners of local and international competitions. The father of these three grandmasters, Hamid Mamedyarov, was also a chess player in the past, and he taught children this sport.