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Against the yellow background. Zero tolerance

However, it’s crucial to use different reasons for these “bombshells”. If you repeat yourself every time, they will finally classify you as a caddish fellow and won’t deal with you again. This isn’t what you need.

Another very important thing is that you can’t be real friends with your boss or your subordinate employee. It doesn’t conform to local hierarchical models so it doesn’t exist. Well, it can exist just for show, in order to take advantage of this behaviour pattern (because you are a resource). Please do remember, if someone has much higher or much lower job position than you do, or they are much older or younger than you are, or they have different marital status, don’t even dream about sincere informal communication and friendship on equal terms. You will never have it from “the opposite side”. If you are the one who has a “higher position” you won’t be rejected out of pure politeness but they will try to take advantage of you in any possible way. If you are “lower” it’s much worse because they’re going to manipulate you. Some exceptions are possible in romantic relationships, but I guess I might be mistaken because I don’t have such experience. My personal observations rather indicate that even love affairs here should be subject to “civilization of status” rules.

There is one more aspect you should be aware about. Foreigners often feel perplexed and even offended because of not knowing it. Traditionally, Asians never say a firm “no”. When during the conversation you hear “yes” from time to time it doesn’t necessarily mean that they agree with you. It just means they are listening. Never rely on such “yes” even if it seemed very definite to you. Any “yes” from an Asian person is, first of all, a sign of politeness and attention. It’s neither consent nor a decision. Don’t ever forget that.

Here is an example. You are talking to an Asian friend or a colleague and saying “Let’s go to the cinema on Friday? There is a show at 11; I’ll buy the tickets. We could meet at 10—40 at the cinema.”

Your companion replies “Yes, of course, let’s go. What an excellent idea!”

After these words you see the green light – you are ready to buy the tickets and wait for your friend at the cinema as agreed. But for your Asian friend it was just an abstract idea that can potentially be turn into reality. He might come if he doesn’t have anything else to do, if he doesn’t forget, if he finds the film interesting, if, if, if… In none of the cases he will inform you about it. He could say “yes” just because he felt uneasy to refuse.

If you want to put this abstract idea into action you will have to get minimum two more “yes” from your friend before the event. Otherwise, it won’t even occur to him that you have really planned it. He would think it was just blabbering.

But that’s small beer that will hardly do any harm to your relationships.

You might have really dire consequences for yourself personally and for your relationship if you express or imply that you have some problem that you are currently unable to solve.

Remember what you have just learned? It is impolite to say “no” in Asia. You are in the “civilization of status”. That means that whoever you talk to they will immediately offer you their help. First, they think so because they automatically regard your story as a call for help. Second, it will “elevate” them in their eyes (or maybe not only in theirs) because since you are asking them for help you trust them and think they can manage something you can’t manage by yourself.

From this point forward you’ve got new problems in your life. These problems can be of different severity level. The worst you can do is to wait for your problem to be solved, especially, if you have a deadline.

There are some exceptions though. For example, you mention your problem in front of someone who is an expert in this field. It’s easy to understand from the conversation. It is also fine if someone introduces you to someone else so that you could ask for advice. You’re lucky then. Unfortunately, 90% of cases have the same above-mentioned script with slight alterations.

You assume that after you discussed the problem and your friend told you he would help, you will get the result at some point. It makes sense from your point of view. But in most cases nothing happens. Most probably, no one was even going to deal with your problem in spite of cordial assurances of support. If you got it right and never disturbed the person with your request again, it’s like nothing had ever happened. You simply had a conversation. He might have improved his status though by mentioning to his friends how powerful he is – even foreigners ask him for assistance!

If you start reminding about yourself and asking what has been already done or what you can do to contribute, you automatically activate another program. Finally, according to this new script, you will be the one to blame for not solving the problem. It is you who has given all the wrong explanations, you haven’t provided the necessary information or documents, or you have sent wrong documents, to a wrong person, at a wrong time, at a wrong place… You have basically done everything wrong.

As a result, you just wasted so much time of such a busy and important man, but he is so generous and kind-hearted that he holds no grudges. He is even willing to invite you for lunch with his friends in order to tell them all the details about how he wanted to help this stupid foreigner, but the foreigner was so useless that simply ruined everything himself.

At this stage all you want is to cut off contact with this person. Sometimes you are even tempted to apply some physical action. Unfortunately, it will happen every time you would like to ask someone for help.

There is only one way out. You will hardly ever change your skin so much. It’s quite hard to avoid such conversations all the time. It’s not necessary to avoid them though. When someone insists on helping you, tell them that everything been already sorted out or is going to be sorted out shortly, so no need to bother such an important and busy man. But in case something goes wrong you will surely ask him for help. It’s enough to show that you obey courtesy rules. By the way, after you say it, you can easily ask about your companion’s opinion about possible solutions for this problem that he himself would have chosen. If he seems to be professional in this field you can choose to really ask him to help you.

I think it’s enough for a general idea of local communication style. If something seems too general and “universal” to you, don’t get upset. Later on I will make more specific examples of building communication bridges under very different circumstances.

I hope the most important thing you have got out of this chapter is how not to be a hostage to your own communication model. We will learn how to take advantage for ourselves later. Now remember how not to harm yourself. When you live with the permanent lack of communication and native cultural environment even the slightest psychological discomfort can easily turn to craving for the familiar mindset. Sometimes you’ll be wildly eager to give the finger to everything, pack your things and be off to the airport.

But if you want to be a success in such a hot place as Asia you need to learn how to keep your head cool all the time.

Chapter 4. Employment

In this chapter I will switch from general to specific. I hope you already have a general idea about communication in Asia and now we can start looking into practical application of some recommendations that will help you get the maximum profit.

Imagine you work in an Asian company. You’re lucky if this is a large international company with a lot of foreign employees. In this case you can skip this chapter. But if you’re one of the few foreign specialists under the direction of Asian executives, it makes everything different. In this case you will have to work hard, both literally and metaphorically.

First, you should know about the basic approach that Asian companies apply to the cooperation with foreign experts and partners. The whole idea of such cooperation is getting the unique information and learning about technologies in order to use them independently in the future. In short, as soon as they see that their employees are able to do what you do your cooperation is over. Or they will decrease your salary because you aren’t unique anymore. It regards every single kind of activity.

That’s why your most important aim (besides performing your primary duties) is to stay unique and irreplaceable as long as possible.

Now let’s talk about the motivation of people who work in your company. For those how have hired you, you are an expensive resource, a source of information. This information should be “extracted” from you for the shortest possible time and conveyed to the local employees.

For your immediate superiors and colleagues in Asia you are a person who occupies someone else’s position. You are also a person with a salary a few times bigger than theirs. You’ll never be forgiven for that. For example, if you’re not a top manager, your immediate superior could have 2—4 people of his own for this position (for your salary alone). But here you are – incomprehensible, expensive and more efficient. Your prospects are vague and complicated. However, nobody will prevent them from claiming your results as their owns. This is a basic principle of middle management in Asia. That’s why you are a resource here.

For your subordinates you are something extremely obscure, and it scares them. At the same time you can be a good opportunity for them to work their way up and gain some new skills and knowledge.

Briefly, this is what it looks like. Later on we will see who exactly you are for different “characters”. Now let’s have a look at your strategic goals and how to navigate towards them.

To be a success, you will have to do something else before you immerse yourself in the daily routine. You will also have to repeat it occasionally, when you feel it’s high time to do it. I’m talking about total formalization of all your relationships and arrangements with your employer.

In local companies all communication is based upon traditions in the society. It means that an immediate superior dominates in everything. Any orders are acceptable. His opinion is always the right one. He can punish or show mercy from his own perspective of the situation. Personal interaction with a superior official upon an initiative of a subordinate is something unthinkable. It can seriously damage their self-esteem. Keeping it in mind, you will have to become an “oasis of freedom” that doesn’t yield to dictation and obeys only to the international law. For this reason you should have a maximum amount of all possible documents regulating your rights and duties. These documents should be signed by a top manager or even by the company owner. In addition to the standard contract you will have to prepare and sign a few more documents. Ideally, you’d better have a full job description (a realistic one), motivation and demotivation regulations, intrinsic standards for evaluation of your work performance, frequency of performance control, working schedule, overtime working, vacation and conditions of payment for vacation etc. You should basically have everything regarding your professional activity here. Besides, it is vital to reserve the right of unlimited access to the top executives, as top as possible. Ideally, try to get their mobile numbers.

I venture to suggest that the companies you used to work for had all these aspects more or less formalized. You might have even read it but didn’t pay much attention to it because you were “just like anyone else”. But being “just like anyone else” in Asia means the following: they will gradually start to underpay you; if you are supposed to have some bonuses beyond your fixed salary you will never actually know how they calculate them; the payment schedule will also be very obscure; they will give you more and more tasks for the same money; the results you get will be passed off as someone else’s achievements. After a short time you’ll be regarded almost as an ordinary local employee which will mean that you have lost your uniqueness and now they have all the reasons for paying you the same salary as they pay to any local or for firing you. So please, make every single action strictly formal. Asians have some respect for documents signed by their bosses, so if you get their signatures by yourself and have a right to reach them when you need them, it’s really an advantage. Don’t be afraid to “go overboard” with the amount of papers and conditions. The worst thing that can happen is that they will point out to you that some things are unacceptable. The more papers you have the higher the fence around your “oasis of freedom” is. The more documents are signed the more unique your territory is and seen even at a distance.

I hope now even the most vigorous critics of formalities are convinced to follow these rules after reading this. Logically, all the current working activity also should be formally regulated. Asian people adore all sorts of meetings, conferences and other “collectivization”. Of course, sometimes they will discuss something regarding your direct duties and ask you questions. If you consider the question important enough, prepare a document about it for the next time. Describe the question, methods, possible solutions, employees in charge, timing, and stages of control. Do it every time even if it is not customary in this company. When your immediate superior approves something always ask for documented confirmation and signatures of every participant. Don’t be afraid to seem a formalist and a pedant. I’ll explain to you why you need it. Most probably if an Asian company hires a foreigner, a foreign employee will be responsible for issues concerning at least a few departments’ activity. Oops! “Horizontal” interactions in Asian companies are not exactly what you are used to. Tough break! Every structural division is a territory with a personality cult of its boss. It’s his personal satrapy. So if you need a specialist from another department to give you a verbal promise about meeting the deadline it’s like you’re going to do the lottery. For example, this young girl, the economist won’t send you the statistics you need urgently even if she swore by all that is holy, just because she was serving tea at the mini-briefing for the chief of her department and his deputy or going out to buy fresh flowers for her boss’s study. When a boss asks to do something personally, even if in passing, even if it’s some insignificant trifle, not urgent at all, a subordinate can never refuse referring to something more urgent to be done for another department. An employee from another department will do something for you on only three occasions: 1) if they have a document signed by his immediate superior, 2) if his immediate superior asked them to do it personally – this is what really happens, and 3) if they decide to help you by themselves – which is almost science fiction. I advise you from all my heart – rely on the first two occasions only. Remember this once and for all – “horizontal” interactions without any formal documents don’t work. You will never achieve your purpose if you expect something from such relationships. If you really need to get something from other departments – once or on a regular basis – try to make it in the most formal way possible. Try to inform heads of these departments personally and ask them to control every employee who will fulfill the tasks for you. Only then you can be sure – at least to some extent – that you will have everything accomplished properly. If you are not sure (especially in the beginning) you can manage it by yourself, try and persuade your superior to arrange it with superiors of the departments you need. Chances are they will gather a meeting and have a long discussion, but, normally, questions are satisfactorily dealt with and you will get what you want. However, don’t be surprised when it will be presented as something necessary for your whole department and thereby initiated by the head of your department. It’s your responsibility but since he is a very wise chief he decided to get this process started. Here we can draw a conclusion – every time you involve your immediate superior in accomplishing tasks you’re responsible for you’re actually losing a bit of your uniqueness and value as an expert. Try to use this method as a last resort only. The less “dangerous” way is to bring up an issue at meetings. As I mentioned before, it’s hard to overestimate the importance of various meetings and conferences in Asian companies. It’s a “holy cow” in Asia. The format of these meetings has one main difference from the events we’re used to – Asian meetings lack real discussion and group decision-making. They are mostly about listening to the opinions of certain executives involved in the process whose views are already known. After everyone speaks out the senior executive expresses his opinion that is also not unknown for every single participant of the process. I strongly recommend you not to really look for a solution at a meeting by discussing all possible pros and cons. Why? It’s another feature of Asian ways of communication, very traditional for this society. Any doubt is regarded as lack of confidence. If you have a few possible solutions and want to choose between them you are timid and unable to make decisions by yourself. If you don’t have a strong opinion about an issue and you bring it up at a meeting then you want the seniors to tell you what to do. I hope you understand their logic now. My advice is to have a clearly articulated position and precisely formulated proposals if you are going to say something at meetings. Don’t change your opinion in public unless you have some new external information that affects the situation or a direct order from your superior. These are the only rational reasons for changing your opinion, and there will be no severe reputational consequences for you. If you change your point of view for some other reason – you lose. Don’t be shy to demonstrate the level of your abilities in public. Your professionalism is the best proof-point in any arguments with your colleagues. Prove it in public a few times even if you feel like you’re boasting or trying to dominate. Actually only this behaviour will help you to avoid numerous useless discussions and arguments in the future. If you don’t show your superiority and status in public or you do it rarely and not very convincingly, be ready that somebody will try to discredit you and explode your reputation in public. All your colleagues should be aware that if they try to “bully” you regarding your professional area, they would sincerely regret about it because the backstroke will too hard for them to stand. Let them know you can also destroy their reputation if you want. Only your immediate superior is the exception. Avoid any public discussion, no matter how contradictory the matter is. If you have any discordance of opinion it should be discussed privately. This is how to survive and maintain relationships with your superior even if you are much more professional than him. In this case put your ambitions on hold.

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